Fact: Straight parents raise gay kids.
Unfortunate fact: Homophobic parents raise gay kids.
Startling Fact: 40% of homeless youth are LGBT kids.
A little story, yes?
I was raised by homophobic parents. I’m gay as a bird. I’ve waited and suffered, gay rights caused lots of disputes in our family, lots of tears on my part. I never found the strenght to come out to them back then for the simple reason that they were still supporting me (I was living with them and they were paying for school)
So I waited. I suffered in silence. Then the day came that I got a job. A year later, I got my own place. Still I couldn’t find the strength to take that 50/50 chance. In my mind, my parents were gonna send me away, say mean things to me, if I came out. So I waited. And one day, I fell in love.
That day was almost 2 years ago. A few months, what am I saying, weeks! after we started dating (my girlfriend knew the situation), I got my mom on the phone. I was at work, she was calling to invite me to have dinner at their house. I was thorn between wanting to spend the weekend with my girlfriend and going to lie, again, at my parents. I hung up. Looked at my colleague and I said: I’m gonna call back and tell them everything, can you cover for me? She agreed, I went to another office and called my parents back. I told my mom that I couldn’t go before telling her that I had found someone. That the someone was a girl and that I loved her very much.
I started crying on the phone, my mom hadn’t said anything yet but I was crying like the day I was born. Then she said: we knew, well, we didn’t know, but we knew and it’s okay and we love you still and you’re our daughter, you come this weekend and we’ll talk.
I cried so hard when I hung up that my colleague heard and came, ready to comfort me. But I was so happy and relieved! I couldn’t stop crying!
To this day, my parents are still apologizing for all the things they said or thought. My mom cannot talk about it without crying and saying how sorry she is and how bad she feels that I was feeling bad.
Morality: yes, parents can be homophobic. But they’re also your parents. And (most of them) they love you more than your sexuality. I’m not staying stay hidden until you can support yourself, that was MY strategy and it doesn’t work for anyone. But if this shared story helps you in any way or gives you hope that your homophobic parents might not reject you whatever you might think, I haven’t lost my time writing it ;)